“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” (Alice P. Cornyn-Selby).
It isn’t within our human nature to intentionally sabotage ourselves and neglect our health and wellness. Most people don’t set out with the goal to be miserable, over eat, under exercise and mistreat our bodies. These habits and patterns mainly arise because of the everyday routines we fall into; the unexpected events of daily life and sudden jobs that seem more pressing. We get distracted, diverted and demotivated to make better choices. Breaking the cycle is a genuine challenge!
If you find yourself having negative thoughts – “why do I do this to myself?” and “how did it get this bad?” – now is the perfect time to rethink them. This is often just life. The positive side is realising you need to make a change and to seek help to get you started.
Now reading and expecting this to happen are two very different things. How you perceive your thoughts, and come to terms with them, takes time and energy. Taking the time and focusing your energy on making these changes are vitally important to your long-term wellbeing.
Here are some tips to help you keep motivated and happy:
1. Hakuna Matata
Most of us have heard this delightful term which simply means ‘no worries’! So try and remember it when you experience negative feelings. It may not always help, but step one is taking the time to understand why you’re feeling helpless and demotivated. Perhaps it was a negative comment from a loved one or an event in your past that has led you to this. Understand its origin and then, most importantly, let it go. Leave the past behind and move forward into your healthy future.
2. Realise your opinions
The next time you find yourself digging that hole into negative thinking and self-loathing, take a moment to recognise it’s occurring. Realise and accept it’s happening, because everyone has these thoughts. Remember they are just words, they can’t attack you physically and the only power they carry is the power you give them.
3. Stay calm and collected
Occasionally when something doesn’t go our way, we have a tendency to get frustrated and angry. ‘Expression anger’ is a healthy emotion but best expressed in the form of exercise or a few deep breaths to expel it from the body. During your process of reprograming your thinking, you may find you get frustrated for not progressing fast enough. Breathe, take a few moments to release any built-up tension in your body and be okay with knowing everyone’s healing process happens at an individual rate.
4. Say ‘yes’ today!
It’s far too easy to put your self-health off for another day. Start tomorrow’s goals today, and if you’re sick of starting again, stop giving up. While it may be challenging at first, and there may be some setbacks along the way, if you get on a roll, the momentum will continue to build and help to enrich your future. Set yourself achievable goals and put in place small incentives to help you on your journey.
5. Ask for help if you need support
It’s perfectly acceptable and positively encouraged to ask for help if and when you need it. Don’t feel disheartened, embarrassed or that you’ve failed. Having a support network of family, friends a naturopath or personal coach, may be the key to helping you make your wellness plan and stick to it.
Above all, make sure you have fun. This is a new chapter of your life; a new year, a new you and it’s an exciting moment! Feel good about making better choices and get energised for a productive and proactive 2019.